covering tracks
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mellybrellyIt's really hard when you see lies and there's just nothing you can do about it.
My midwife and nurse are both now saying that my nurse turned up my pitocin with permission, but it was verbal permission that I didn't hear. That's a straight out lie. My doula, Shelli, saw her turning the pitocin up, and my midwife hadn't told her to turn it up. Minutes later, my midwife did say to me that she would like to turn it up again, and the nurse laughed and said she had been turning it up all along.
Now my midwife is saying she told her that she should do that, but it's a lie. Lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie. Just like it's a lie that the OB didn't swear at me. Just like it's a lie that they changed my sheets right away.
I just received a very detailed letter that basically says "you are a silly girl". Actually, it's two typed pages of justification. What it actually says is "Your recollection of the communication between the nurse and the midwife about increasing the pitocin is correct, however, because you were unable to hear the whole conversation and were not aware of our approved protocol for labor induction, you would not have known that the nurse acted appropriately in this situation. She followed the midwives verbal directions and written pitocin protocol.". SO I guess me saying I did not want any more pitocin for a while, and the midwife agreeing, means NOTHING because the hospital has some policyto cover their asses that says they can do whatever the fuck they like with the drugs once you have an IV.
Obviously when I have my next baby, if it's in hospital, I will need to make my birth plan extremely clear. I do not agree to the hospital's protocol on doing whatever the fuck they like.
It makes me really frustrated, but not surprised, that Paula is saying she verbally gave her the go ahead, when she didn't. She had just come into the room, I believe, when the nurse was doing it. I should have said something right in that second when the nurse was laughing about turning up my pitocin without the midwife's go ahead.
Eventually this will all be a distant memory. They do "hope you will allow us to rebuild your trust in the future". Hah.
The one positive is that they have obviously taken my concerns pretty serious, 5 months later they are still doing inquiries. Too bad they wouldn't eliminate my two thousand dollars or more that I owe the hospital and hospital OBs.
My midwife and nurse are both now saying that my nurse turned up my pitocin with permission, but it was verbal permission that I didn't hear. That's a straight out lie. My doula, Shelli, saw her turning the pitocin up, and my midwife hadn't told her to turn it up. Minutes later, my midwife did say to me that she would like to turn it up again, and the nurse laughed and said she had been turning it up all along.
Now my midwife is saying she told her that she should do that, but it's a lie. Lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie lie. Just like it's a lie that the OB didn't swear at me. Just like it's a lie that they changed my sheets right away.
I just received a very detailed letter that basically says "you are a silly girl". Actually, it's two typed pages of justification. What it actually says is "Your recollection of the communication between the nurse and the midwife about increasing the pitocin is correct, however, because you were unable to hear the whole conversation and were not aware of our approved protocol for labor induction, you would not have known that the nurse acted appropriately in this situation. She followed the midwives verbal directions and written pitocin protocol.". SO I guess me saying I did not want any more pitocin for a while, and the midwife agreeing, means NOTHING because the hospital has some policy
Obviously when I have my next baby, if it's in hospital, I will need to make my birth plan extremely clear. I do not agree to the hospital's protocol on doing whatever the fuck they like.
It makes me really frustrated, but not surprised, that Paula is saying she verbally gave her the go ahead, when she didn't. She had just come into the room, I believe, when the nurse was doing it. I should have said something right in that second when the nurse was laughing about turning up my pitocin without the midwife's go ahead.
Eventually this will all be a distant memory. They do "hope you will allow us to rebuild your trust in the future". Hah.
The one positive is that they have obviously taken my concerns pretty serious, 5 months later they are still doing inquiries. Too bad they wouldn't eliminate my two thousand dollars or more that I owe the hospital and hospital OBs.
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Date: 2010-12-30 07:39 pm (UTC)The midwife looked at the nurse and gave the verbal order to increase it and the nurse said, "I already did it. When nobody was looking." and laughed.
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Date: 2010-12-30 08:48 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2010-12-30 09:27 pm (UTC)I recently did a blog post for one of my clients on a study saying hospitals actually LOWER their litigation costs when they acknowledge mistakes and apologize. It seems like this ought to be the standard protocol for people over age eight, right? But they don't do it that way because they think acknowledging a mistake will get them sued. Instead, they clam up and deny any responsibility for anything, thus telling the patient that they're not willing to deal openly and fairly.
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Date: 2010-12-31 04:04 pm (UTC)That said, I agree with others that a free consultation (which ALL of my clients offer; it's part of any reputable trial attorney's job) might help get the bill reduced.
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Date: 2010-12-31 04:05 pm (UTC)Reading about your experience, and other people's, makes me feel well-armed for when it's my turn to have a baby. I know people will have advice on what they wish they had known.
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Date: 2010-12-30 09:35 pm (UTC)Yes. A silly girl with access to steel toed boots I'd love to silly-ishly shove up your rear end.
It's funny how people suddenly 're-remember' the facts *after* they realize they're in shit. Poopfaces. Karma requires a wide berth, as long as you are being you and being true you needn't worry too much about the black stains in your life. Karma is like Shout! It gets all the bad stuff out sooner or later ;)
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Date: 2010-12-31 05:09 am (UTC)Funny how in their first letter they said the nurse didn't turn up the pitocin, that I was mistaken, but when I said I had three eye witnesses, suddenly she did turn it up but it was okay because of secret hospital rules.
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Date: 2010-12-31 03:45 pm (UTC)Hopefully through you, they'll realize for the next women they can't be such asses.
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Date: 2011-01-03 07:50 pm (UTC)I'm pissed that even though I started making payments to the hospital, they have started sending things to collections. Feels like insult to injury.